Family mediation? Get ready to negotiate

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A relationship breakdown can have an impact not only on your health but also upon your wealth.

To be ready for family mediation you must be prepared to negotiate. Often in the heat of a family dispute it is too easy to be hot-headed and unreasonable.

Mediation is not a battleground or a re-run of your past problems. If you want family mediation to succeed you must stay cool, keep calm and engage in the process that you really want to work.

A family mediation service is a process in which you both meet with an independent mutual mediator who will help guide you through your dispute, help you communicate with each other and reach a solution which can then be incorporated into a court order.

It is a cost effective way of resolving issues whether about property, maintenance or children and in some circumstances Legal Aid is available.

The golden rules for family mediation:

  • Focus on the real issue
  • Be civil to each other (and the mediator)
  • Always keep your aim as resolving the dispute without running off to court
  • Attempt to walk a mile in the other person’s shoes and think about the dispute from his/her perspective
  • Be prepared to concede issues or offer to give up something in return for something else

The dont’s of family mediation:

  • Be abusive or unnecessarily confrontational
  • Attempt to take over the process and impose your will
  • Ignore your opponents concerns
  • Make ultimatums
  • Be afraid to make concessions. You are not weak in doing so, it is expected of the process

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